My husband and I have been married 10 years today.. 10 YEARS!! I feel much too young to be celebrating 10 years of marriage, but then again, I feel like I have experienced a life time with this man. Thinking back on the past ten years, I realize it looks a lot different than I had anticipated. If you had asked me on my wedding night “Where do you see yourself in 10 years” I probably would have answered something like this ” I see myself happily married to this man, always putting him first, living in a house my dad built for us, with 2 kids and a dog.” When my reality is: happily married to this guy, who rarely gets put first, living in a house I am not sure who built it and we replaced the dog with a kid. And guess what. Its working out pretty darn good for us.
Does my husband like not being put first? No.. of course not. But he doesn’t complain either. He knows I love him even though most days 90% of my attention goes to the kids right now, and I know he loves me, even though work gets 90% of his attention during the day and the kids get 90% of it at night. I would be lying if I were to say there aren’t some days I want lay down and have a hissy fit in the middle of the kitchen just to grab his attention for a minute, but most days I can patiently wait until we have time to just be us without three little ones buzzing in our ears. We have finally learned how to make that 10% count. That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
There are moments when we want to strangle each other and we both huff and puff trying to prove our point or to “get our way” but almost every single time it ends when we both fall on the bed or the couch out of pure exhaustion and call a truce because we are both too tried to fight about it anymore. That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
Some mornings start with a simple kiss goodbye when he thinks your still sleeping but he needs to get to work early, but doesn’t want to leave without saying good bye…and when you wake up to his lips touching yours and it still gives you butterflies… That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
And lets be honest friends, sometimes the couch becomes our very best friend (or should I say our husbands very best friend throughout those years)…and sweetie, some times that is okay. A good nights rest for everyone is usually all it takes for everyone to start out fresh, just as long its only SOMETIMES. Just dont make the couch your new bed. That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
Its the moments when you feel broken and lost and you dont even love yourself, yet they still seem to love every piece of you. That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
Its when Saturday family pancake breakfast becomes your favorite date of the week and a movie on netflix, while eating ice cream under a cozy blanket together becomes the most romantic thing you have done together in months. That’s what a decade of marriage looks like.
Its knowing every button to push to make each other smile and feel loved and cared about and knowing every button to push to make each other crazy and want to pull each others hair out….But also knowing that pushing those first set of buttons are so much more rewarding. Thats what a decade of marriage looks like.
To my wonderful husband, thank you for all that you do for me. Thank you for being my calm in the storm, for being my light in the dark. Thank you for being my meatball to my spaghetti and for being my gravy to my mashed potatoes. Thank for loving me even when I may not show you love back. Thank for being patient with me, and for knowing when and when not to give me space. Thank you for being an amazing father and giving me the biggest blessing in life. Thank you for sacrificing so much so that I can stay home with our kids, and thank you for making our family more of a priority than anything else. I love you bubba more than words could possible say. Happy 10 years my love… and cheers to many more. XO Nicole
Happy Anniversary!!! 10 years…very exciting. You guys are doing a wonderful job raising those beautiful babies and standing by each others side through the thick and thin. We love you. We pray The Lord blesses you with many, many more years. The next ten will go even faster!! So hold on tight to each other and enjoy every minute!
Happy anni!